Paula M. (Argentina → Germany): “I found my family by heart” — and I prepared it with a clear contract
Paula tells how a clear contract and a family who included her, not just housed her, turned her German stay into a real family experience — not just a room.
Berlin, Germany · 11 months
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She signed a contract stating 30 h/week, one free day and the Taschengeld before arriving: “Zero bad surprises.”
The family invited her to Sunday dinners and celebrations — the integration happened outside childmind hours, not inside them.
Without that written framework, she says, the cohabitation would have blurred her working hours.
Pocket money in Germany
≈ €280/month (reference value published by the Bundesagentur für Arbeit, set by contract — the official reference published by the Bundesagentur für Arbeit). Added on top of a private room, full board and health insurance.
✔ The Compliance Team verified on 2026-09-13 · official data
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